Full-Time, Part-time Or Stay-at-Home?

Friday, 15 June 2012

For the first time since December 2008 I've done a full days work. Eight whole hours of work. It was tough. We've got a new computer system at work so I've worked a full day today and I'm working a full day tomorrow {yes Saturday!} to help with the transition. Thankfully it's just the two days! But it got me thinking...

Since going back to work after Oliver was born, I've worked part time. I work Tuesday to Friday mornings which is a meagre 20 hours per week! For me, it's the perfect balance of work and family time.

I've always been full of admiration for full time mums and dads, it's the  hardest job in the world. It's also the most rewarding job in the world but I don't think I could do it. {Maybe if we had a bigger house, I could but that's a whole other post!} I had almost a year off both times I was on maternity leave and I loved being at home during that time. Both times I was dreading going back to work, but when I actually went back something just clicked, and I felt like my life had a better balance. So I came to the conclusion that I'm just not cut out to be a stay at home mum.

Anyway, after the full day's work I've done today I have a greater admiration for mums who work full time. Not because I thought they had it easy, far from it. I don't think I'd given it a great deal of thought to how hard it really is. I worked from 7.30am - 4.00pm and I was knackered! I couldn't be bothered to make tea so the Darlings had tea at their grandparents and Hubby and I had a takeaway. I have a massive pile of washing to do and the bathroom needs cleaning, which are normally jobs I do in an afternoon. I don't know how mums who work full time fit it all in. Though nowadays some families don't really have much choice. Financial situations mean that mums have to work full time to bring two salaries in or have to be the main earner as they have a higher salary.

I love my time at work, a few hours of being 'Debra' not 'Mummy' all the time. I jokingly say that work is the easy part of my day... sitting at my desk, drinking bottomless cups of coffee and having adult conversations. Don't get me wrong I often feel guilt and relief in equal measures when I leave for work. But although it's sometimes hard work being at home with two little people under four,  I love my time with them even more and it makes me appreciate every single minute with them. Because I'm not with them 24/7, I have more patience and acceptance, I feel it makes me a better mum.

So full time work, part time work or stay at home? More money for your family or more time with your family?  I honestly don't think one situation is better than another, it's just what works best for your family. Working part time is best for us and today has made me appreciate it even more.

Do you work full or part time? Are you a stay at home mum? What do you think about your situation?

8 comments:

  1. I'm a stay at home mum and I love it. I could probably cope with part time but wouldn't want to do full time until they are both at school x

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    1. That's fab that you love it. Part time is fine and I'll probably carry on when the kids are both at school but do a few more hours x

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  2. I want to work from home. Trying so hard to figure out how to make that happen without hearing a bunch of scams. I'm working on my own plan. We will see if it happens. I've learned I have the discipline to do this. It's crazy.

    Irish

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    1. Working from home is a great idea. I hope you find something that suits you and your plan works out x

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  3. I am a WAHM, I did have a business outside the home with my first child once he went to school but sold up after 2 years because I prefer to work from home. I work about 16 hours a week or less, depending how fast I can deal with it all & all around my 22 month old (& when I can't Mr J steps in a couple of afternoons a week to whisk her away for a fun time! well jell!). I could not, not work, its more about my self esteem than money but the money is certainly welcome! I do agree about all the housework though, it never goes away!!

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    1. I'd love to work from home but don't think I'd be disciplined enough to sit down and do the work! I'd probably get distracted by the kids! It's a great alternative though and works really well for loads of families x

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  4. I have done all three options! After my daughter due to finances I had to go back to work full time, commute to London from Hampshire (with my daughter) so she could attend the nursery near where I worked because otherwise it was a 2 hour trip to get home in "an emergency" After 2 years of this and a lot of stress and strain I dropped my hours to part-time and my daughter started attending a local (to us at home) preschool. The part time hours were even harder, and getting even less time with her (because we no longer had the commute together) so after a year of that I became a stay at home mum. I run my own business now around my daughter's school hours and I could not be happier! I loved my job in London, but I love my time with my family more :)

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    1. Wow you tried all options then! How great that you've now got the perfect situation for your family. It's just a matter of finding what work best for you isn't it? x

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